Relationship Help

Create the relationship you want and deserve. Here are some resources to help you:

The Complete Idiot's Guide to the World's Religions

By Brandon Toropov and Father Luke Buckles

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This guide introduces Judaism, Christianity, Islam, Hinduism, Buddhism, Confucianism, Taoism, and Shinto. It also touches on African and Native American traditions, and the growing Baha'i faith.

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He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

By Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

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He's Just Not That Into You * * the six little words that changed dating forever. For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men. Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that -- despite good intentions -- you're wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages. The truth may be he's just not that into you. Based on a popular episode of Sex and the City, He's Just Not That Into You educates otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn't like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship.

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The Love-Shy Survival Guide

By Talmer Shockley

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"Shockley, a high-tech research technician diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome, presents an intriguing work designed to help readers with great anxiety in starting a romantic relationship (what he calls 'love-shyness'). First defined in Brian G. Gilmartin's Shyness and Love: Causes, Consequences, and Treatment (1987), the label (not yet an official diagnosis in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders-IV) describes people who, because of psychological problems, cannot have romantic relationships.

"For these individuals, any romantic or prospective romantic situation induces such a high level of anxiety that almost any dating and sexual relationship proves impossible. Shockley summarizes relatively recent research on love-shyness, explains its link with Asperger's, and discusses how love-shyness differs from normal shyness. In addition, for both male and female sufferers of the syndrome, he provides candid advice on how to survive the jungle of relationships and make dating an enjoyable experience.... ."
--Dale Farris, Groves, TX (Library Journal)

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Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough

By Lori Gottlieb

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By looking at everything from culture to biology, in "Marry Him" Gottlieb frankly explores the dilemma that so many women today seem to face--how to reconcile the strong desire for a husband and family with a list of must-haves so long and complicated that many great guys get rejected out of the gate.

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First Comes Love, Then Comes Money: Basic Steps to Avoid the #1 Conflict in Marriage

By Roger Gibson

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From his first (now) humorous story of spending decisions in the early days of his marriage to Kari, Roger explores several aspects of the money pitfalls in marriage, including debt management, investing, principals of being an effective manager, discovering your money personality, and balancing the differing spending habits of spouses.

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When Opposites Attract: Right Brain/ Left Brain Relationships and How to Make Them Work

By Rebecca Cutter

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"In this sensitive guide to relationship problems, Cutter, a Southern California marriage and family therapist, invites couples to consider a non-gender-bound perspective based on brain research... 'Left-brain dominant' mates, we are told, focus on one thing at a time, are blunt, straightforward, tenacious and prefer not to take risks, while 'right-brain dominant' types are intuitive and spontaneous, avoid routine and have trouble separating emotion from fact. When an LB person hooks up with an RB, he or she must learn specific skills to coordinate their polarized ways of being... Includes dialogues from couples therapy sessions plus self-help exercises... This eye-opening manual has much to say about commitment, respect, earning trust and accepting imperfections, and should help many couples confront unmet needs."
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The Marriage Sabbatical: The Journey that Brings You Home

By Cheryl Jarvis

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"Any woman who yearns for a break from the demands of home and family to nurture her soul--but thinks she 'couldn't possibly'--will discover a healthy new perspective on her not-so-radical desire in this enlightening book. The key is in the book's subtitle, The Journey That Brings You Home. With six simple words, Cheryl Jarvis illuminates her driving message: 'A woman who takes time away to rejuvenate, to grow, is in the end bringing that back to the marriage and her family.' Drawing from interviews with 55 women who experienced sabbaticals of various lengths and purposes, Jarvis relates the inspiring stories of those who endured criticism (often from surprising sources like closest friends) to pursue their long-nurtured dreams. True to her journalistic background, Jarvis supports each key point with exhaustive research... The backbone of Jarvis's book is the personal tale she relates throughout its 300 pages.

"It's the story of a starry-eyed bride who--like many young women--nearly loses herself (quite willingly) in her mate's professional goals and recreational pastimes, cuts corners in her own successful writing career to raise kids (again, willingly), and then realizes that her family ties are strangling the life out of her. The result: a three-month stint at various writers' colonies, a fresh outlook on life, and a fantastic first book from an insightful--and much more confident--soul." --Liane Thomas -- (Amazon.com)

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The Lesbian and Gay Book of Love and Marriage

By Paula Martinac

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"...A crossbreed of a book that offers knowing, humorous insights on love in the gay lane. Crossing romantic advice à la 'Dear Abby'... with practical tips on gay weddings that would make Martha Stewart proud... Martinac has assembled a collage of expert interviews, statistics, personal opinions, historical anecdotes, intimate photos, and chats that, while covering an enormously wide range of interests and positions, is quite centered and focused. This is because Martinac understands that there is no one gay or lesbian point of view on any of these topics; each person and each couple has unique needs and opinions. While it does not avoid the controversial... or the sentimental... it manages to be both frank and funny, practical and political."
--Michael Bronski (Amazon)
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The Conversation: How Black Men and Women Can Build Loving, Trusting Relationships

By Hill Harper

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"Why does so much misinformation and mistrust exist between the sexes? Hill addresses the stereotypes that have developed in the Black community, in the hope that by addressing the challenges, Black men and women can find their way to common ground. The Conversation aims to open up the lines of communication, and offers inspiration to those who want to take control of this crisis and start building successful, sustainable relationships."

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Mars and Venus Starting Over: A Practical Guide to Finding Love Again After a Painful Breakup, Divorce, or the Loss of a Loved One

By John Gray

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"Mars & Venus Starting Over opens the door to finding a rich and fulfilling lifetime of love once again. The first section of the book addresses the part of the healing process that is basically the same for men and women. Dealing with the pain of a breakup or loss is not easy, and John Gray makes it clear that although the pain of loss is an inevitable part of life, suffering is not. He explains that the heart often lags behind the mind, that we must experience our grief in order tobecome whole again. He compassionately shows us how to find forgiveness and explains how good endings make good beginnings. Although the healing process is fundamentally the same, starting over on Venus is often different from starting over on Mars. Women tend to push love away to avoid getting hurt again. On the other hand, men often get involved right away, but have trouble committing. Part two, 'Starting Over on Venus,' explores the twenty-three common challenges..." faced by women. Part three, 'Starting Over on Mars,' address the men's issues.

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